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JulieRobynJ
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 Is this considered Animal Abuse/Cruelty?
I got too upset with my poodle Shasta once many years ago and I feel bad about how I reacted.

Hello, Fellow Animal Lovers!

My name is Julie, I'm 21, and I'm a proud mother of a 14-year-old persian cat named Kitty-Baby, an 8-year-old standard poodle named Shasta, and a 1-year-old beta fish named Bob. I've been a vegetarian for almost 3 years, and I'm currently on my way to becoming vegan. Yay! My babies are my life. I know they get fed up with my baby talk and the snuggles I give them when I come home from being away at college (except for Bob, he gets to see my funny face out of his fish tank, hehe!)


Anyways, I'm a big time worrier, I've always been. I even call home once a week to check on the 3 little ones! Smile

Well, that being said, I've started beating myself up over something that happened when I was just 14-years-old (we got Shasta when I was 13-years-old and she was only 9 weeks old). Well, we had been potty training Shasta, teaching her all the fun tricks, basically turning her into a human (she's so spoiled, hehe!). One thing we've always had trouble with is her crazy barking! We got her trained on the invisable fence collar so she can enjoy our big backyard at her own pleasure, but she has a bad reputation for barking at our neighbors when they come and go! Well, back in the day, I let her out to play in the backyard and the neighbor was doing some yard work. Shasta was barking her head off, scaring the neighbor. I kept calling for her, even trying to get her back into the house with treats, toys, etc. I just got so frustrated that I started yelling at her in the backyard. Finally, the only thing I could do was go back inside, wait by the door, and just be so ticked off! Let me tell you, the moment she came to the door, I let her in and was giving her a good word or two! I'm not a fan of spanking or doing anything that would purposefully hurt an animal. I just lost my temper and was yelling at her, took her by her collar trying to pull her up the stairs, and I knew I was being too rough. It even started to make her hack a little because of how rough I was pulling on her to get her up the stairs to my bedroom (where she usually stayed with me). My dad was like, "Hun, yanking on her collar that hard is not going to make her obey you or make you or her feel any better." After that, I let her go and basically just chilled out. I came to my senses. She didn't cry or run away or anything. But let me tell you, I have always beat myself up over it. I love my Shasta with all my heart and spoil the mess out of her.

Sorry for the ranting, but do you guys think I'm a bad "mommy" to my Shasta? I knew I was being too rough on her with pulling on her collar. Ever since then, I've been conscious about stuff like that, trying to "live and learn" just like you would do with human children. Is this considered animal abuse/cruelty? I really hope not!

Any comments, reassurance, etc is much appreciated! Smile


- Julie

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teddy bear
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Hi, Julie! You can also introduce yourself in detail in a thread that was specially made for new people at this forum. It's a nice place to meet others and say hello. There is also a questionaire that you can fill out about various animal rights topics.

Anyway, it's nice to meet you. Although you didn't handle the situation very well, I am more concerned about the fact that you have pure-breeds for companion animals. I am not sure if you bought them or not, but they are always helpless victims of a system them objectifies living and feeling creatures and reduces them to slaves and things.

So, this situation happened when you were 14, and now you started thinking you are a bad mommy? You were a kid, in her teen years, influenced by hormones. Kids are like that. It is also one reason why no child should be given care over another animal's life.
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panthera
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Hi Julie, your heart is obviously in the right place. Yes, it was too rough--would you have done that to a human being? But I think it's time to say, "yes I regret having done that, I will not do anything like that again," and then move on. You seem to be using the incident for something--I'm not sure what. Maybe as a way to get people to like you, b/c you feel so guilty about it? Embarassed

Let's be honest. Everyone here has enacted far worse cruelty for years and years, simply by not being vegan for all of our lives. So you were actually being far crueler to many more animals, for many more years, than you ever were to Shasta. But now you're stopping, right? Smile

We do have residual guilt. It's hard to get over stuff from the past (I still carry around a lot of guilt from my family's neglect of a dog 20-30 years ago). But you'll probably find a lot more energy to give Shasta now, and to explore animal rights, when you've let this incident go.
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GoldenGlitters
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Don't beat yourself up. I consider myself to be one of the biggest animal lovers on this planet, but when I was younger, I once hit my cat pretty harshly with a broom because she was being "bad" and annoyed the heck out of me. But, I was just a kid and I have learned from that situation. Nothing unusual, humans spank their kids for misbehaving. lol.

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